Y'all...I am so tired of dating. And trying to date.
It's exhausting. Sometimes it's fun. Sometimes it's not. And lately, it's just been weird.
So I'm on a popular dating website. Again. But my luck has not been great.
But I signed up for three months and made myself promise to really give it and the options presented to me a fair shake. And I totally have. I mean, if there is even a remote possibility of a connection, I have sent them the first communication. I've been rather proud of myself in that regard.
Things started out really promising. The first two weeks were great. But then things sort of fizzled. And then...well then they just got weird. {I wish so badly I could show you photos but I am sure that is breaking a million morality rules so I can't post them. Y'all will just have to settle for taking my word for things.}
Despite setting specific age and location ranges, I keep getting matched with men who live many states away and are over the age of 60. And I mean, I am trying to be open. But I'm not
that open. I want kids, not grandkids. The pickin's, it seems, are mighty slim around these parts!
I think I am going to break this post up into a two parts as to not make it a novel so let me today just tell you about my surprise last night....
So the photo above is my profile photo. I list my passions as volunteering and gardening. I note that I like dogs, cooking, wearing pearls and am a positive person. It's all very normal stuff. So last night, I get the following note from a guy with whom I initiated the first round of communication {remember that I initiate communication with maybe 25% of the matches- that's a huge percentage- I'm really trying here}.
Hi, and thank you for your interest in my profile. Unfortunately after reading your profile I just don't think we have enough in common- without sounding like a jerk, many of your interests are much the same as my ex-wife, and I ignored these differences in our personalities and tried to overcome them for a decade until she called it quits and pretty much destroyed my life, which I am trying to slowly re-build.
Here's the thing...he could have just been a normal person and not replied or blocked me. That's what I do all the time. Sometimes even after sending a first communication, I think better and then hide them. But instead, he sent me this note. Fan-freakin-tastic. I just blocked him and moved on but seriously...what the what is that about?!
So that's what I'm dealing with.
It makes it harder and harder to keep trying and to keep putting myself out there when all I get is a computer screen full crazies. I don't want to give up. But honestly, it's exhausting sometimes!
Next week you get to learn about Catman II and Mr. Commune. Good times. Stay tuned!
